Jul 9, 2013

Why should I dress modestly if I'm confident...? (Modesty Part 2)

As I've been growing in how I see 'modesty' ...and the importance of dressing this way... I got to thinking about why I really had to dress this way if I was a confident young woman with nothing to hide?! 

Generally the only people dressed modestly at the pool are elderly women, moms (presumably w/ stretch marks), and 'some' children. 

Almost ALL of the teens and young women are in cute 2-piece swimsuits getting a great tan!


So... if I am a tall, slender young woman without stretchmarks or any body-image issues... why should I dress modestly? My heart isn't seeking to attract men or cause them to stray... so what's the harm??? Why should "I" have to dress like a grandma, or, worse yet... a "MOM" (gag me, lol).

Unfortunately, this attitude is very naive and selfish.

This is why:

1 Corinthians 10:23-24 says “I have the right to do anything,” you say—but not everything is beneficial. “I have the right to do anything”—but not everything is constructive. No one should seek their own good, but the good of others."

So although you have every "right" to wear whatever you want, we should consider what's truly beneficial & constructive... and what'd be better for not just ourselves, but others!

Verses 31-33 go on to say, "Whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God. Do not cause anyone to stumble... even as I try to please everyone in every way. For I am not seeking my own good, but the good of many - so that they may be saved."

I would encourage you to read the entire chapter in order to understand the full context, but these verses make it pretty clear that we are to do what's best in ALL things... this would include the way we dress & present ourselves. 

In order to do our best in not causing anyone else to stumble, we should consider what others might consider a stumbling block... including half the population... which of course would mean = MEN! 


You might not know this, but men are very visual... & wired 'completely' different from women! 

Most girls like to fantasize about prince charming whisking her off her feet with songs and roses and promises of lovely ever afters as they ride into the sunset on a white horse, but MEN fantasize about something a bit more... 'to the point' I guess you could say... they think about SEX... and they think about it a LOT! 

(I'm not trying to stereotype everyone with this, but most women are more emotional and most men are more sexual - God meant it to be this way, I feel, so we could have the best of 'both worlds' after we're married & can connect completely).

Men need to be accountable for their own thoughts and heart, but women still have a responsibility to not make life more difficult for guys like my husband & others like him, who have no interest in seeing skimpy clothes. They want to save their eyes for their wife or even for their future wife! 

This is what I think about now... 

I want to honor my husband by NOT dressing in a way that leaves little to the imagination in public... but also how I desire to honor other WIVES by not drawing attention to myself or any of my "assets" (pun intended). 


We reveal the state of our heart, before God, with our willingness to consider both of these things.

Now, there are many men who WANT women to wear hardly anything at all so that they CAN view them as objects to be taken advantage of, but we don't want to encourage those 'boys' now do we... we want real men who value us for who we are.

So... lets make a commitment today to attract 'the good ones' by how we present ourselves, shall we ladies? It's time...

"Lord show us how we can 
best honor You by our 
thoughts, words, & actions. 
Help us to not cause others to stumble" 
Amen